How To Wear Metallics If You’re A Woman Over 50

How To Wear Metallics (if you’re a woman over 50)

I’m a big fan of women wearing what they want at any age, but there are some looks best left to those with really young bodies.  All-over sequins would be one of those looks, IMO.  Sequins, light-reflecting material and texture in general add pounds.  This isn’t a bad thing when you’re balancing one half of your body with the other, but the allover flash may not be your best look if you’re over 50.  Unless you’re Baddie Winkle – in that case, you go gurrl!!!




Metallics are Big in Fall 2017

On the other hand, refusing to wear any trends will quickly dump you in Camp Frumpy.  Adding a few metallic items will help you look au courant in the fall of 2017. Your first decision might be to choose between gold and silver, as both are popular (with silver probably just a bit more so).  Silver-toned metal, which includes pewter, brushed nickel, sterling and sterling-look-alikes, looks best on people with cooler/bluish tones in their hair and skin.  Not sure about yourself?  Stand in a north-facing window (in the northern hemisphere) in the middle of the day without the lights on and hold a silver-toned item like a scarf or table runner up to your face.  Then compare the way you look with a gold or yellow-toned item near your face.  You want the metallic that lets your face pop out – if your eye goes to the fabric, that’s the wrong one for you.  If you need more help, please feel free to contact me and I’d be happy to help you.

Metallics Over 50: A Little or a Lot?

Here’s the “a lot” category.  So, the part of you wearing metallic is going to stand out, and you can use this to your best advantage.  If you have an A shaped frame and want to make your top half look bigger, by all means add a metallic vest, top, sweater or jacket with plain dark pants, a skirt or jeans.  That will guarantee your top half balances your bottom.  If you are top-heavy, put your metallic pieces below.  Even a skirt or pants with a metallic sheen will help balance your top (a top with a scoop or V neck that’s plain without a lot of texture would be best if you’re heavier on top).  If you have a fuller body everywhere and still want to ride on the metallic bandwagon, why not try a column of color (that’s a bottom and top in very similar colors) with a metallic jacket, vest or kimono on top?  Some items I put together as examples…



Metallics Over 50:  A Lot or a Little?

And here’s how you can add a little metallic, just for fun or to highlight a feature.  Everyone needs to look at your face, because it’s your communication center.  Adding some metallic here is easy (and I don’t mean eyeliner).  Statement earrings or a necklace in gold or silver or mixed metals would do it.  Perhaps a metallic scarf in your hair or around your neck (instead of a necklace).  Add a ring or arm candy in gold or silver to highlight your hands and wrists.  Not excited about them?  How about some little gold- or silver-toned gloves?  Or an embellished bag?  If you have a narrow waist, add a metallic belt to your outfit.  And if you don’t have a narrow waist and love belts anyway, wear one under a jacket so just the buckle and a little bit of the belt shows.  And my favorite (and VERY easy to find this year) – metallic shoes.  Silver booties are everywhere and at all price points.  I have warm skin and don’t wear silver, but I will be rocking some gold-toned loafers that I plan to paint myself.  Did I mention that it isn’t wise to spend a lot of money on trendy items?  Look for affordable things, or make them yourself, as their moment of glory probably won’t be long.

How will you be updating your look for fall?  Drop a comment below and let us know!

Confidently yours,



Purchases during Nordstrom’s Anniversary Sale

My Purchases during Nordstrom’s Anniversary Sale

I’m a Nordstrom card holder and as such was allowed to purchase items on sale a week before the annual sale earlier this month.  Nordstrom has an interesting sale – items go on sale BEFORE they are available for sale and the price goes up afterward.  I purchased 5 items for about $350.00 total during the pre-sale time period.  At this time I would be paying about $500 for the same 5 items, so a pretty sweet deal.  This is what I purchased.  The pictures I copied and saved from the Nordstrom website.  No affiliate links included!

Underwear at Nordstrom’s Anniversary Sale

This may be TMI but if you know me well you know I struggle with underwear.  I’d prefer to go without.  But underwear is a must-wear much of the time, so I was lucky enough to stumble on Hanky Panky one-size-fits-all lace thongs a few years ago at Teri Ann’s dress shop in Marietta.  They were way out of my price range, so my mom bought them for me and I was hooked!  I’ve tried the low-rise Hanky Panky thong too but I prefer the regular rise – the low rise feel like they’re going to fall off!!  They come in a wide range of gorgeous colors and with proper care (washing in the machine on a cold water delicate cycle and hung to dry) they last forever.  If you’re going to pay $20 for a pair of underwear the darned things better last, and these do.

More Underwear at Nordstrom’s Anniversary Sale

The other “underwear” item I depend on is a shaping tank.  It makes a big difference in how your tops fit, particularly if you tend to carry extra weight in the midsection (as I do).  My favorite tanks are from Shimera, but they don’t make them anymore.  Lots of crying when I learned that…  So I tried the Yummy Tummy two-way shaping tank.  The Shimera and Yummy Tummy tanks were both pricey, but like the Hanky Panky thongs the Shimera tanks last forever so the cost-per-wear is just pennies.  I popped the Yummy Tummy tank on to write this post, and it’s very comfortable while giving that little bit of compression.  It’s reversible too, so you can wear it forwards and backwards depending on the neckline you prefer.  I got a size M/L which seems just right.  And mine is a nude color – IMO more practical than navy.  But it does come in colors which is nice.  And unlike less expensive shaping tanks, these are long and stay tucked in, a must unless you want to be tucking your undies in all the time.

Outerwear at Nordstrom’s Anniversary Sale:  Jeans

I’m a huge fan of jeans and cords from Kut From The Kloth.  I tried them first through Stitch Fix, which I no longer use, but I’m forever grateful for the introduction.  My faves are the Diana skinny jeans – I think I have 3 pairs of their cords which I wear all winter.  I don’t have much of a waist, my hips are narrow and I have a flat butt.  Jeans frequently cause muffin top (cue the shaping tank) so I need jeans that are cut a little wider in the waist.  They also have to be narrow in the seat or I end up with droopy drawers.  That’s okay if the jeans are big all over like boyfriend jeans, but a droopy seat in skinny jeans?  No thank you!  I made the mistake of getting Donna skinny jeans when I thought I was buying Diana skinny jeans.  Not sure how that happened – but I love them just as much.  They’re a blend of cotton/rayon/poly/spandex so they’re soft and lightweight with a little stretch.  They run large so you might want to size down.  And the green is a great shade of olive – not as muted as in the picture.  If you want help finding your best fitting pair of jeans, give FitCode a try.

More Outerwear at the Nordstrom’s Anniversary Sale:  Coats

I purchased two coats and can’t wait to wear them!  One is a red suede moto-style jacket (on sale for $125!) and the other is a lightweight brown wool-blend coat with knit sleeves.  The red is sort of a paprika shade and I got a size large so I can wear layers underneath.  The brown coat is what I would call nutmeg – it’s a warm brown shade.  You’d be surprised at how hard it is to find warm-toned browns – many brown clothes are cool in their undertones and not flattering on me.  But I love brown!  So I’m super enthusiastic about both coats.

Have you purchased anything new for fall?  Do you have favorite jeans or undies??  Leave a comment below to let me know.

Confidently yours,



Strapless bras – what I picked and why

Strapless bras – a blessing or a curse…

The links to the Wacoal strapless bra contain my affiliate link at Amazon.  If you click on it and then buy something, I will receive financial benefit.

I bought the cutest top at Cato’s – kind of a modified off-the-shoulder style but I needed to wear a strapless bra with it.  The first time I wore the top I got a bandeau strapless at Elder Beerman and – it was awful.  It was too big and I tugged on it all day.  It didn’t offer enough support either so I added “boob tape” to keep things up.  Not a happy camper at my nephew’s graduation party.  Have you ever been distracted by your underwear when you’re trying to have a good time?!?.

Wacoal Strapless vs Lively

So, I decided to try two different strapless bras that have good reviews on social media.  One was the Wacoal “Red Carpet” strapless and the other was Lively’s style #42211.  Because I’m an Amazon Prime member, the Wacoal arrived within two days of my order but the Lively wasn’t delivered for about 10 days.  Also, the Wacoal had my size in all colors, but the sizes were limited in Lively’s selection.  I got the Wacoal in nude, size 34DD, and the Lively in pink, size 36D (34DD wasn’t available).  Besides the shipping, there’s a pretty big price difference too.  I paid about $65 for the Wacoal (although Amazon changes its prices depending on what you order so a different size and color might have a different price).  The Lively was just under $45 which included shipping.  They have free shipping on orders over $50.

What is the same about both strapless bras

Both have just minimal padding, which is important to me because I have enough of my own.  Both have wide bands with four hooks.  Both have underwire support AND both have a wire support about an inch away from the cups on the back strap to help keep the strap from wrinkling.  Both have removable convertible straps.  And, both are made in China.

The back view of both bras

The front view of both bras

What’s different about these two strapless bras:  packaging, shipping and price

Lively sent me a free tote bag for being a first-time buyer.  It came in a gorgeous box.  I really felt honored to be giving it to myself.  Although it took ten days to arrive, it seemed worth the wait.  The Wacoal came in a plastic bag with free two-day shipping from Amazon Prime.   My budget was really happy about Lively’s price, even though I paid for shipping.

Wacoal packaging

Lively packaging

What’s different:  fabrication and construction

The soft pink of the Lively strapless is SO pretty.  And, the Lively has a mostly mesh strap, which looks as if it would be so cool on a hot day!  The Wacoal is a nice nude color but nothing special. Both are made of similar (but not the same) fabric.  The body of the Wacoal is 91% nylon and 9% spandex, while its dense mesh strap is 87% nylon and 13% spandex.  The Lively body is 87% nylon and 13% spandex, while that mesh strap is 77% nylon and 23% spandex.  The Wacoal has the sticky rubber lining on the inside of the strap – both top and bottom – and along the top of the cups.  This baby is meant to stay in place!  The Lively has the sticky rubber lining on just the inside of the top of the strap.

Lively mesh strap and fabric content


The deciding feature

The deciding feature for me was  this – the strapless bra by Wacoal has a seecond piece of stiff vertical support where the back strap attaches (if you’re wearing it with the straps).  The Lively strapless has fabric there but it is not stiff.  In my mind, the Wacoal strap would not collapse on itself but the Lively might.  And you have to wear a strapless bra TIGHT, so the lack of vertical support in the Lively bra gave me an additional bulge back there (not something I need more of right now!).  So, as much as I wanted the Lively bra to win this contest, the Wacoal got my vote.

The deciding feature of the Wacoal bra

Test run of the Wacoal Red Carpet strapless bra

I did not wear the Lively bra, because it is unethical to wear something and then return it (and I’m going to either return or sell it).  So I wore the Wacoal strapless with my off the shoulder top yesterday, out to dinner at Purple Chopstix with my family to celebrate a birthday.  It didn’t wiggle around or slide down – it required absolutely no adjustments – and in fact by the end of the evening I’d forgotten that it was strapless at all.  I’m thrilled with my choice!!  But if you want a lighter weight strapless bra, consider giving the Lively bra a try.  It was a close contest.

Confidently yours,